"Wow! I wish someone had explained the definition of abuse to me years ago! This information has changed how I view my past and present""
"I had no idea that my first marriage was emotionally abusive. I thought it was just "difficult." I wasn't able to have a healthy relationship until I understood and healed this. Thank you!"
"I couldn't understand why I kept being in toxic relationships until I took your course and realized that my Mother was emotionally abusive. Finally, I can leave that pattern behind and have clarity in my new relationship!"
"Dr. Elisha’s course is enormously helpful. It is incredibly thoughtful and detailed and inclusive of all aspects of relationships. She helped me to understand my reluctance in the beginning of what is becoming a lovely relationship and she has given me many things to think about as this relationship develops. The depth of her knowledge about relationships is amazing. I’m very grateful for all I’ve learned from her. "
"I so wanted to save my marriage, and now I can-- because my husband and I now understand healthy ways to speak to each other and we've stopped avoiding fights altogether or just having a 'blow out'. We are so grateful!"
"I had no idea that my boyfriend was actually stonewalling me when I got so anxious. I thought maybe I had done something wrong and always blamed myself which made me so anxious. Now I have healthy boundaries and expectations for our relationship, and I feel much calmer."
Someone was manipulative or abusive to you. At first it just felt "unfair" or "difficult."
It may have started with your Mother, or Father. Even a sibling. Or maybe you had great family relationships and then fell in love as an adult and discovered too far in that this person was manipulative and every argument was a no-win.
These experiences scar you at the deepest level. They leave you blocked to love and deeper connection. All of this leaves you scrambling, hoping to avoid this happening again.
If your spouse is abusive, you undoubtedly see the effects this is having on your children. You witness how they twist themselves into a pretzel to avoid the inevitable pain of trying to avoid pain from their abusive parent. You know that this will effect their future ability to love and be loved.
The truth is, If you've been in an abusive relationship, you need insight and knowledge to heal the scar and prevent it from happening again.
Relationships are meant to feel safe, secure and loving.
Even in healthy relationships, people DO and SHOULD fight and even go through difficult times.
Do you know the difference between a difficult time and emotional manipulation or emotional abuse? Most people don't.
We all deserve basic education about this form of abuse, as research shows that it causes more harm than physical abuse.
Yet in my experience, very few people know how to define emotional abuse.
Everyone should take this course! We all will encounter manipulative people either at work, in our family history, in our dating lives, with children or friends. Knowing how to see clearly and stay out of toxic patterns is so powerful!
Countless times in my practice I meet people who are in an abusive relationship but have no idea and think that they are weak, or crazy... or people who were in an abusive relationship, and are still trying to recover.
My solution is to teach you the map of secure vs abusive or pathological behavior. Then, you’ll no longer wonder which behavior is constructive, and how to respond if someone is being destructive.
Sometimes manipulative behavior is easily reversed with a missing piece of education. Other times, the abuse or manipulation is firmly entrenched in the perpetrator's personality and the only healthy option is to leave.
Once you've completed the course, you can go forward with the peace that you are acting in good faith, not yourself repeating any abusive behaviors. You will also be able to see the warning signs of this behavior in any new relationship!
That’s why I created The Emotional Abuse and Manipulation Course, the first online, experiential course that will give you a clear map of this behavior.
My promise to you is that you will get the clarity and confidence to navigate these behaviors once and for all.
By the end of this course, you will feel a newfound confidence that you can take care of yourself and your loved ones without being manipulated by other people.
As a psychologist, psychoanalyst, author and teacher, I have studied emotional wellbeing and the mind-body connection for more than 25 years. When I look back on the turning points in my life and career, each has led me deeper into understanding that our essential nature is as relational creatures.
Looking back, it is clear that my own wound was indeed a “sacred wound” – the wound that, when embraced, becomes a doorway to our sacred gifts. I have a fundamental attachment trauma - I was adopted at birth. From a young age this both created pain, confusion, and sparked my curiosity to understand the inner world; I explored biology, psychobiology, transpersonal psychology, attachment theory and eventually psychoanalysis out of this need to understand.
Along the way I learned to heal my own trauma through the power of loving relationships and the insights of depth therapy. But it didn’t go smoothly. I learned over decades and through painful personal trial and error to get clarity on the simple, yet profound, fundamentals of healthy bonds.
I realized that when we understand these principles we have a map for the complex and multi-dimensional world of relationships!
I used these principles to do my own healing work, to learn to choose a partner wisely, and to develop thriving, lifelong bonds with family, my children, my partner and even friendships. These principles have helped my students and my patients to transform their self-identity and their relationship life.
Many of my patients have expressed the sentiment: “Why didn’t someone teach me this when I was 20 (or 30”) ?!?" This course is a response to that sentiment. I am providing the condensed and user-friendly knowledge of my decades of personal experience, education, and clinical practice.
It is everything I wish I had known at 20 and hope that generations can utilize this knowledge to bypass decades of unnecessary suffering caused by a lack of information and guidance.
From birth our very existence depends on our ability to attach to caregivers, and throughout life the single largest factor predicting our wellbeing is the quality of our relationships.
Let me teach you how to navigate the world of relationships with intelligence, compassion, responsibility and clarity-- starting with a healthy relationship to your self!
3 Training Videos
Each module for the course has 3 short, easy to watch training videos that cover all of the material you need to master the content. These training videos prep you to complete the transformational exercises, provide real life examples, and give you the science-based education you need to build your Relationship Map. You can listen to these videos anywhere, on the go, at home, all at once or one at a time in a way that fits your schedule.
Exercises & Reflection Questions
Each session comes with 1-3 exercises to put your learning into action. These exercises are journaling or personal reflection, exercises to do with a partner or friend, and tracking exercises to strengthen your emotional muscles and insight capacity. These exercises are the means to turn the content into personal transformation: from “knowledge” to “experiential knowing.” This process allows you to actually see and understand your relationship life from an entirely new perspective.
Each module includes a downloadable .PDF workbook with the exercises outlined for you. This workbook will guide you to complete your exercises and personal reflections to ensure that the learning is transformational and personal to you. You can keep this workbook either digitally or hard copy as long as you would like and can add to and evolve your reflections over as much time as you find useful.
Lifetime Access to All Materials
All course videos, workbooks and bonus trainings are available for lifetime access. Never worry about missing a session, working at your own pace, or returning to any module at different points in your life when working with different phases of relationships. All materials will be available to refer to, refresh yourself on, or share with important people in your life.
Opportunity to Connect 1:1 with Dr. Elisha
If you would benefit from a personal coaching call or video session with Dr. Elisha, you can use this time to get personalized feedback and guidance with any course material. Sometimes an outside, experienced perspective can help you to clarify or see from a fresh perspective. Individual calls are $250/hour and can also be used to help you clarify if or when you could benefit from ongoing therapy, and to locate a professional who is appropriately trained to do this work with you.
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The Emotional Manipulation Course
2-Module Online Course
All Course Materials
Access-Anytime videos (Replay anytime, or download for later)
Dr. Elisha is a psychologist and psychoanalyst – meaning that she has the most in-depth training available – to treat the whole of a personality, getting to the root of relational difficulties and healing one’s identity.
She has worked for more than two decades in mind-body integration and relational wellness for her patients in private practice: Depth Therapy. Through this work she has distilled a fundamental wisdom about the relational nature that underlies wellbeing and life satisfaction, and has helped thousands of people to heal their past wounds and manifest the future they deserve.
She is the author of The Conscious Body and has taught postgraduate courses for many years throughout Southern California. She currently lives and works in Aspen, Colorado with her family and extended family.
Her deep understanding of how attachment relationships shape our feelings about ourselves, the world, and our expectations about relationships can help YOU excel in intimate relationships.
You will be connecting with Dr. Elisha and the other participants via a video conference call each week. You will have exclusive access to the course website which houses all of the materials in the course including training videos, workbooks, recordings of the group calls, documents, templates, PDfs, etc. This will be a highly engaging, real time experience that you can access and utilize for a lifetime.
No. Just a computer or mobile device with an internet connection.
Yes! The material is a great conversation starter and conversation guide for two people working to create or improve a thriving partnership.
This course is not therapy and does not replace therapy; it is transformative education that gives many people the tools they need to do their own self growth work and/or dramatically accelerates any therapeutic process.
The content of the course represents material that is covered in any good psychodynamic, psychoanalytic, attachment-based therapy and gives you the tools to empower you to do vast amounts of healing and growth work. If you have a therapist, this will accentuate and accelerate your work. If you are considering entering therapy, this will immensely help you know what you need in therapy, how to select a competent therapist, and where to begin. If you have already done therapy but still feel stuck in relationship patterns, this course will equip you with the education and mindset needed to continue your own growth and evolution.
This course is for you if you value connection in your life and want to maximize the quality of connections across all areas of your life. If you feel stuck, or ashamed, or afraid of forming deeper connections, this course is for you. Whether you are starting out on your adult life or reflecting on a lifetime of relationship experience, there is something here for you to learn and grow from. This course is made for singles, couples, married people and divorced people who want to do relationships well!
Out of a deep respect for your privacy we are not utilizing a social media forum to contain this process. Participants will have the option of an assigned partner in the course with whom to share and reflect on your workbook process. We do have a Facebook platform where we will share educational material, updates, useful links and resources. This is not designed for personal processing, as it is not a closed group. We absolutely encourage you to share and practice but also to do so with people whom you have a knowledge of, and therefore do not feel that social media is the best forum for this! The live calls ARE a place to ask questions and for feedback around your process!