The Love Thyself Course:

ReWiring the Self for Love

Prepare for Secure Bonds

Become an Extraordinary Partner

Learn from licensed psychologist and psychoanalyst:

Perrin Elisha, Ph.D.

Psychologist, author and founder of Depth Therapy and Relationships ReWired

Discover the science-based, heart-centered Relationship Map that takes you from loneliness, heartbreak, fear or divorce... to the confidence and clarity to succeed in love.

What Does It Mean To Love Yourself?

I know you want to be a mature partner and to feel confident in your relationship choices to bond and grow through your life.

 You know that you need to "love yourself first" to feel confident in the world of dating, relationships and marriage.

But what does it mean to "love yourself"?. 

It means being able to digest and narrate your attachment history,

And it means developing a healthy attitude towards and relationship with your own emotional life. 

Maybe you saw your parents, other marriages, and your own relationships be hit or miss. Often failing, tragically, with grave consequences. And now you may feel afraid to get into a real relationship, for fear of getting hurt, or failing.

If This Is You, You’re Not Alone

No one taught you the truth about how relationships work - what doesn’t work, how to avoid constant conflict or resentment or loneliness in relationships. Think about it, relationships are the most important and likely most complex area of life and yet we receive NO education about how they work or how to prepare for one.

Here's The Great News

Once you discover the science-based principles of bonding, and develop the skills to heal from past trauma, then you can approach relationships with a real map. 

When you have mastered your own attachment history, you'll be equipped to approach dating, relationships, and even conflict with respect and grace.

When someone tells their partner to "go to therapy," they usually mean to do this particular work.

With this new map, you’ll no longer be wandering aimlessly around in the dark; and you can go forward with the peace that you HAVE done your own work!

That’s why I created ReWiring the Self, the first online, experiential course that will guide you through your identity, a healthy relationship to your emotions, and your past.

My promise to you is that you will get the clarity and confidence to navigate your relationship world, unshackling you from your past. 

You will feel at peace knowing that our true nature is relatedness, and that you can express your nature freely, respectfully and honestly in a balanced partnership, in parenthood and in friendships.

By the end of this course, you will feel confident in knowing that you can have a life in which solid, secure, creative relationships are the foundation and in abundance. 


In this program you will: 

  • Develop the skills to manage your own emotional life, replacing confusion, shame, guilt and fear with understanding, responsibility and compassion
  • Discover how to clarify and strengthen your identity and self respect.
  • Discover an approach to the masculine and feminine principles in any relationship
  • Understand what you need to know about Attachment Theory, your attachment style, and how to use an understanding of attachment style to manage dating and loving.
  • How to transform your past from an obstacle into a doorway to your ultimate relationship future.

Here's What You'll Learn

In this course you will develop your Relationship Map, like a map with topographic layers.

You will lay the foundation with the research-based principles that govern emotional life and bonding.

You will layer your individual history, needs and dreams onto this map in a way that is personal to you and to the person you choose to connect with.

This map allows for you to heal what needs to be healed and enter into a bond that is set up to succeed!

Module 1: Who Am I?

We begin with a healthy YOU! This section looks at the question “who am I,” to develop a healthy sense of identity from multiple dimensions that builds a healthy foundation to enter partnership.

Here you will discover:

  • How to define and integrate the unconscious aspects of your identity
  • How to define your core values
  • How to develop a stable yet flexible and cohesive identity
  • The key to processing your emotional life in a constructive manner
  • A foundation for navigating the masculine and feminine within yourself and within a partnership
  • A roadmap for navigating addictions in yourself or a partner

Module 2: Know Your Story

I will guide you through an exploration of navigating your personal attachment (bonding) history. You will learn how your own story allows for the establishment of secure bonds. We cannot establish secure, thriving bonds if we do not digest our own history!

Here you will discover:

  • The fundamental predictor that IS in your control to determine your relationship future.
  • Why your attachment history does NOT predict your relationship future
  • What is SHAME and how to avoid a cancerous takeover of shame in your inner world!
  • How to discern your and a potential partner’s attachment style, and how to use that information to set a real foundation in any relationship.
  • Why Insight makes change and evolution of your personality Easy!

"I was so stuck and angry, and scared that I was repeating patterns... now I am happily married with children! I used to chose unavailable men but learned that I had a longing for closeness that I was actually ashamed of, and the shame about this healthy need was sabotaging my dating life. Doing the careful work of sorting through my attachment history and learning what my unconscious biases were, i was able to transform how I approached dating and build the family I longed for!"

- Linda

Included In The Course

14 Training Videos

Each module for the course has 7 short, easy to watch training videos that cover all of the material you need to master the content. 

Exercises & Reflection Questions

Each session comes with 1-3 exercises to put your learning into action. These exercises are journaling or personal reflection, exercises to do with a partner or friend, and tracking exercises to strengthen your emotional muscles and insight capacity.

Downloadable Workbook

This workbook will guide you to complete your exercises and personal reflections to ensure that the learning is transformational and personal to you.

Opportunity to Connect 1:1 with Dr. Elisha

If you would benefit from a personal coaching call or video session with Dr. Elisha, you can use this time to get personalized feedback and guidance with any course material.

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The Love Thyself Course

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The Love Thyself Course PLUS

2-Module Online Course

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55-Minute Private Coaching Call w/ Dr. Elisha


A Personal Message from Dr. Elisha

I have studied emotional wellbeing and the mind-body connection for more than 25 years. When I look back on the turning points in my life and career, each has led me deeper into understanding that our essential nature is as relational creatures. Along my path of study and discovery, I realized that when we understand the principles of loving relationships, we have a map for the complex and multi-dimensional world of relationships!

Many of my patients have said to me: “Why didn’t someone teach me this when I was 20 (or 30”) ?!?"  This course is a response to that sentiment.  

From birth our very existence depends on our ability to attach to caregivers, and throughout life the single largest factor predicting our wellbeing is the quality of our relationships.

Let me teach you how to navigate the world of relationships with intelligence, compassion, responsibility and clarity—starting with a healthy relationship to your self and your past!

"I was lost and lonely in my marriage... now I feel clear and confident about my needs and how to make sure they are met in my relationships! I felt so guilty that I was having an affair, and came to realize that I had entered my marriage with no map of relationship and chose and created a dynamic that possessed none of the qualities of a secure bond. In fact, my marriage was toxic and bad for me. Understanding this, I had the courage to be honest and ask for what I needed. When I realized there was a map for healthy adult relationships, I had the confidence to end my unhealthy marriage and form a healthy bond for the first time! I didn't even know what that was or how good it could feel before!"

- Zach

About Perrin Elisha, Ph.D.

Dr. Elisha  is a psychologist and psychoanalyst – meaning that she has the most in-depth training available –  to treat the whole of a personality, getting to the root of relational difficulties and healing one’s identity.

She has worked for more than two decades in mind-body integration and relational wellness for her patients in private practice: Depth Therapy. Through this work she has distilled a fundamental wisdom about the relational nature that underlies wellbeing and life satisfaction, and has helped thousands of people to heal their past wounds and manifest the future they deserve.

She is the author of The Conscious Body and has taught postgraduate courses for many years throughout Southern California. She currently lives and works in Aspen, Colorado with her family and extended family.

Her deep understanding of how attachment relationships shape our feelings about ourselves, the world, and our expectations about relationships can help YOU excel in intimate relationships.

"After my first serious breakup, and without any romantic history, I knew I was sabotaging myself but couldn't unwind that pattern. Understanding what avoidant attachment was and why I behaved that way was a huge lightbulb! I had some very real trauma to work through to change that pattern, but I gained the confidence to know there is a map for this journey. I was no longer working at odds with myself and was clear about how to choose a partner and establish trust!""

- Penny

Frequently Asked Questions

You will be connecting with Dr. Elisha and the other participants via a video conference call each week. You will have exclusive access to the course website which houses all of the materials in the course including training videos, workbooks, recordings of the group calls, documents, templates, PDfs, etc. This will be a highly engaging, real time experience that you can access and utilize for a lifetime.

No. Just a computer or mobile device with an internet connection.

Yes! The material is a great conversation starter and conversation guide for two people working to create or improve a thriving partnership.

This course is not therapy and does not replace therapy; it is transformative education that gives many people the tools they need to do their own self growth work and/or dramatically accelerates any therapeutic process.

The content of the course represents material that is covered in any good psychodynamic, psychoanalytic, attachment-based therapy and gives you the tools to empower you to do vast amounts of healing and growth work. If you have a therapist, this will accentuate and accelerate your work. If you are considering entering therapy, this will immensely help you know what you need in therapy, how to select a competent therapist, and where to begin. If you have already done therapy but still feel stuck in relationship patterns, this course will equip you with the education and mindset needed to continue your own growth and evolution. 

This course is for you if you value connection in your life and want to maximize the quality of connections across all areas of your life. If you feel stuck, or ashamed, or afraid of forming deeper connections, this course is for you. Whether you are starting out on your adult life or reflecting on a lifetime of relationship experience, there is something here for you to learn and grow from. This course is made for singles, couples, married people and divorced people who want to do relationships well!

Out of a deep respect for your privacy we are not utilizing a social media forum to contain this process. Participants will have the option of an assigned partner in the course with whom to share and reflect on your workbook process. We do have a Facebook platform where we will share educational material, updates, useful links and resources. This is not designed for personal processing, as it is not a closed group. We absolutely encourage you to share and practice but also to do so with people whom you have a knowledge of, and therefore do not feel that social media is the best forum for this! The live calls ARE a place to ask questions and for feedback around your process!


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